I started this blog two and a half years ago, at a time when the title “Therapy Sucks” made a lot of sense. I wrote regularly for a long time, then tapered off, then felt the need to find some privacy and boundaries within myself, so I pulled away even more.
But I find myself missing the community and the lack of blog posts simply for posterity. I love being able to go back and read what I was thinking and feeling so many months ago. It gives me a change to understand the progress I’ve made, or the places where the patterns just keep spiraling.
I recently had a patient complain about how she’s so busy. She said she doesn’t even know why she’s so busy or what she’s even doing to BE so busy. She asked what I thought about people who are busy “just to be busy”.
I thought about it for a moment and then said, “Well, I think it’s helpful, or at least it’s been helpful for me, to be curious about what the ‘busy’ replaces. Is there some thought or feeling or experience I am unwilling or scared to face that I’m covering up with just doing stuff? For me, it’s usually an indication that I’m avoiding something…”
She smiled and said, “Wow, that’s good! Wherever did you learn something like that so young?”
I’m not sure why I answered like this, but I very bluntly said, “Oh, I learned that in therapy!”
She clapped her hands together and said, “That’s fantastic! We should have a group or something that’s just people talking about what they learned in therapy.”
I laughed and said, “You know, I would totally love something like that!”
Which is when I decided to start blogging more regularly again and to rename this blog, which will from henceforth be titled:
“Things I Learned In Therapy”
It’s an optimistic change and, quite frankly, it’s about damn time.